Something for us Millennials

I am currently 23 years old, and sometimes I sit and wonder to myself on how quickly time has passed. I could still remember going prom dress shopping like it was just last week or getting my eyebrows done for the first time, and now, I’m approaching the quarter life mark. I am a person who analyses every moment of my life and yes, I do consider myself a bit of an over thinker. Over thinking can be both a good and bad thing, but the real reason behind my over analytical approach is simply because I don’t want to waste a moment of my life and because I want to achieve EVERY goal that I set myself to. I believe that being in your 20s is a vital period in a woman’s life because she starts truly discovering herself, transitioning from a young girl into a woman. I’ve learnt so much about me within 3 years, but particularly, from my 22nd birthday to now. I do admit, I put an immense amount of pressure on myself to always do ‘the right thing’ and always ‘stay on the right path’ whilst still setting a list of goals I want to achieve by the time I am 30. Is this the way that life is ought to unfold? Who really determines what your life should be? What is the true meaning of having a successful life? Does it consist of getting a good job, marrying, owning a house and car, having kids and travelling? Or is it much more than that? Recently I’ve been in certain situations which really made me question emotions and life. My standpoint on emotions is very clinical; I believe that you should always be in control of your emotions as a way of protecting yourself from disappointment, but what if this guard of emotions restrain you from really experiencing the different joys and aspects of life. There are many unanswered questions in the quest of life, and even though I am confused to what we, as young people should do to always live righteously, there are a few things I will always abide by:

Don’t lose the child in you: You have your entire life to settle down, get married etc, as of now; go buy the designer bag that your heart craves, or go look for the bargains with your mom, go eat junk food with your friends, go to the party (even if you don’t drink alcohol) have soda and laugh all night with your friends, go on little trips with your besties, open your window and enjoy the fresh Sunday air, sip hot tea and read a magazine, go get your hair done and remember, the little things in life is what keeps you humble, and humility will always be the key to happiness.

 Dress to your best always: You don’t need to have money to look good; you just have to be smart when shopping. Appearance is very important as a young person, you have to be confident, and even if you don’t 100% feel confident, then you have to look confident. In your 20s, your body has pretty much found its shape, find clothes that flatter you, that’s brings out the best in you, but remember, you don’t have to reveal your body to feel beautiful, please understand that a humble heart will shine so bright that the shallowest of persons will recognize your beauty.

Maintain your Relationships: One of my main goals is to be the best daughter/sister/friend/neighbor, always strive to be the best version of yourself in order to maintain good friendships. Make time for your loved ones, switch off your cell phones and have genuine conversations.

Understand that life is a lesson: From all of my unanswered questions, the main thing I truly believe in; is that life is really just a journey filled with lessons and experiences. Nobody really has the true definition of living, in my opinion, we ought to understand that growing up and striving for perfection is acceptable but is it attainable? I believe we should just continue trying to be the best that we can be. Try to have a pure heart, a sincere mind and a truthful tongue and hope that our life turns out to be filled of wonderful experiences that will shape us into amazing persons.

Photos: Taken in Barbados